Look Forward
Look Forward
Jonathan Clements | May 23, 2020
IT’S BEEN AN UNHAPPY few months. Stepping outside means risking our health. One out of six U.S. workers is unemployed or soon will be. The stock market has suffered its worst decline since 2007-09. And while we can take steps to help ourselves, the situation is largely out of our control.
Feeling glum? One of my abiding interests is happiness research, and that research offers ideas that can make our current situation a little cheerier. But how?
We can think of any occasion—perhaps it’s a fun experience we’re planning or a purchase we want to make—as having three elements: the time before, the event itself and the time after. Each offers the opportunity for happiness, but it takes effort on our part.
1. Before. I’ve stopped asking friends and family whether they have any plans for the weeks ahead, because the question seems almost silly. Many folks are reluctant to, say, eat at restaurants or go to the beach—and, depending on where we live, these things may even be prohibited. But if we can’t make plans, what’s there to look forward to? The fact is, one of life’s great joys is anticipation.
My suggestion: Create two wish lists, one for today’s world and one for our post-pandemic life. The current list might include things like restaurants we want to order from, hikes we’d like to take and items we want to purchase online.
Yes, I realize there’s currently a debate about the ethics of online shopping—and whether we should limit ourselves to ordering essentials, so we don’t put fulfillment and delivery workers unnecessarily at risk.
I’m not going to weigh in on that. But if you are inclined to buy online, I’d spend time scouring the internet and considering different items, so you add to your anticipation.
And if you decide to make some purchases, lean toward items that can be shared with others, such as kitchen utensils that’ll allow you to make a special meal for your family or games that require multiple players. Most things in life are better when they can be shared with others.
Meanwhile, even if we can’t imagine climbing on an airplane today or going to a concert, we should make a second wish list that includes, say, places we’d like to visit and performers we’d like to see. We might do some research online, and then hatch plans with friends and family.
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